80% of time spent between parents and children has happened by the time the kids leave home.
If you have children this means that by the time they are packing their bags to head off to Uni or to start work, you will have very little face-to-face time with them moving forward. No wonder people experience empty nest syndrome – that’s a massive life change.
For those of us without children the statistic still applies, just in reverse. By the time you left home you had spent 80% of the in-person time you will ever spend with your parents.
Tim Urban describes this as saying that your time together will be in the Tail End. When looking at this reality he had the realisation that despite not being at the end of your life, you may very well be nearing the end of your time with some of the most important people in your life. So what to do with this sobering thought?
1. Freak out
2. Do nothing because you're freaked
3. Ignore it
Any of the above could be an option, or:
Use it to galvanise action (i.e. give yourself a kick up the proverbial)
Tim Urban’s takeaways from the Tail End concept are:
1) Living in the same place as the people you love, matters. You probably have 10 fold time left with the people who live in your city as you do with the people who live somewhere else.
2) Priorities matter. Your remaining face time with any person depends largely on where that person falls on your list of life priorities. Make sure this list is set by you—not by unconscious inertia.
3) Quality time matters. If you’re in your last 10% of time with someone you love, keep that fact in the front of your mind when you’re with them and treat that time as what it is: precious.
George and I have another to add: 4) Document your time together. By creating photobooks, writing about it, scrap booking – however you want to capture the feelings and thoughts of those shared moments, do it!
And don’t leave these time capsules in someone else’s digital world (over which you have no control)- create something tangible that you can hold and thumb through when you are 90. Carpe Diem!
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